Words

This past week, while listening to Pandora, I heard a song I hadn’t heard or paid much attention to.

It immediately caught my attention.

The song is called “Words” by Donald Lawrence.

Words LIVE · Donald Lawrence presents Music & Arts Global featuring Blanche

The song “Words” by Donald Lawrence. – Search

I am often reminded of the word’s others speak to me.

I’m also aware that words have power.

Many of us grew up learning the traditional nursery rhyme: “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”

Often, I hear people create a self-fulfilling prophecy with their words.

Self-Fulfilling Prophecy In Psychology: Definition & Examples

As someone who has studied psychology, especially Self-Efficacy as taught by Albert Bandura, I’m humbled to understand the power of words and their effects.

Self-Efficacy: Bandura’s Theory Of Motivation In Psychology

How we speak to ourselves matters.

If we say we can’t do it then we can’t do it.

Why does how we speak to ourselves matter?

What self-talk are you using to sabotage your life?

Self-Talk: How You Do It Matters a Lot | Psychology Today

Our words also tie us to our character, who we are.

Character is an important part of who we are. It shapes our actions, thoughts, and how we treat others.

Therefore, when we use our words out loud, our character is on display for all to see.

The Psychological Power of Words | Psychology Today

Today, I challenge you to reflect on the words you use in your conversations and in your inner voice through self-talk.

What are you saying that helps or hurts you in becoming the best version of yourself?

I leave you with four quotes about words, and maybe one will resonate with you more than the others.

“With the right words, you can change the world.”  ~Walt Whitman

“Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.”  ~Mother Teresa

“Words matter. They can define who you are and who you can become.”~ Brené Brown

“The words you speak become the life you live.” `~ Lisa Bevere

Blog source: https://mckinleysthoughts.com/words/

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The Battles We Fight

A few weeks ago, as I sat in the nail salon while waiting for my wife to get her pedicure, I had an epiphany.

The people who owned the Nail Salon were in deep chatter in their native tongue.

As I tried to figure out which language they were speaking and looked around the shop for clues, I realized they were all Vietnamese; I immediately thought about the battles we’ve fought and are still fighting.

For me, it was a humbling experience, as I wore my military hat that stated I was a Gulf War Veteran.

Although I didn’t serve in Vietnam, my father did, and I came in just as the war was ending.

I often wonder what other nationalities think of Americans.

We have many foreigners who have prospered and broken the code to success.

However, in that moment of all the chatter that was going on back and forth subconsciously, I was thinking it had not been that long ago since the Vietnam War ended.

I know some are unaware of when the Vietnam War ended, which was on April 30, 1975.  I had already joined the military in June 1974.

I was able to hear some of the war stories as a new recruit and witness the things we don’t talk about today.

Vietnam War | Facts, Summary, Years, Timeline, Casualties, Combatants, & Facts | Britannica

However, I have come to realize that many are still reliving the Civil War that ended in 1865 with the surrender of the Confederate Army.

When and How Did The American Civil War End? | History Hit

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I’m somewhat reminded of the words Abraham Lincoln said to Ulysses S. Grant that are still happening today: “Politicians, not Generals, will set the terms of peace.

As we look at a nation that remains divided, “The battles we’ve fought” are still being fought.

Understanding it’s football season, we even have a Blue and Grey Bowl.

The Blue-Grey All-American Bowl took place at the Tampa Bay Buccaneers’ Raymond James Stadium last year on January 27, 2025, and was broadcast on ESPN’s family of networks

This year, the Blue-Grey All-American Bowl is in Dallas, Texas, on December 21, 2026, at the Dallas Cowboys’ AT&T Stadium (TX).

All-American Bowl Schedule – Blue-Grey Football High School All-American Football Games and Combines

Even at our youth level, today’s players are being prepped for the battles ahead as they prepare for scouts and college football.

Ironically, various schools will not teach anything about Critical Race Theory (CRT), yet the students are learning about it on the football fields.

Many understand the consequences of teaching CRT and remain focused on securing school funding, a measure introduced by the state legislature under the current administration.

Trump Signs Orders to Defund Schools Teaching CRT and Promote School Choice | NTD

In a few weeks, I plan to be in the presence of a Medal of Honor recipient.  Major James Capers Jr., as I prepare to attend my second Military Influencer Conference this year in Tampa, Florida.

James Capers Jr | Vietnam War | U.S. Marine Corps | Medal of Honor Recipient

I met Major Capers last year at the 2025 Military Influencer Conference, during the MIC-MIGHTY 25 Gala in Atlanta, Georgia.

So, when you think about “The battles we’ve fought,” just know they are continuous if we want them to be.

“Soldiers generally win battles; Generals get credit for them.” ~ Napoleon Bonaparte

“Part of the happiness of life consists not in fighting battles, but in avoiding them. A masterly retreat is in itself a victory.”  ~ Norman Vincent Peale

Today, I challenge you to reflect on the battles you’ve fought.  The question is, are you still fighting them?

Blog source: https://mckinleysthoughts.com/the-battles-we-fight/

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Huntsville, AL Businesses: Book a Motivational Speaker Who Actually Knows Your Industry

Huntsville's business community is different from a lot of mid-size cities. It's anchored by aerospace, defense, and a fast-growing tech sector, and that changes what actually works on a stage in front of your team. Generic motivational content lands flat here. Here's what to look for instead, and how to avoid booking the wrong fit for your event.

A speaker who's worked with engineering-heavy, technically-minded audiences understands that Huntsville teams respond better to concrete frameworks than abstract inspiration. Someone unfamiliar with the region's pace and culture often defaults to a generic keynote that could be delivered anywhere, and it shows within the first few minutes. Local familiarity isn't a nice-to-have; it's the difference between a talk that resonates and one that's forgotten by the following week.

What Should You Look for When Comparing Motivational Speakers in Huntsville, AL?

When comparing motivational speakers in Huntsville, AL, look past the highlight reel and ask about substance: does the speaker offer a specific, teachable framework, or just an hour of high energy with no follow-through? Ask for examples of past corporate audiences similar to yours, and request a full clip from a live event rather than a polished sizzle reel that only shows the best thirty seconds. A speaker with real leadership experience, not just stage experience, tends to bring content that holds up under scrutiny from a technically-minded audience used to asking hard questions.

How Much Does It Cost to Book a Motivational Speaker in Huntsville, AL?

Pricing varies widely based on event length, audience size, and whether the engagement is a single keynote or a full workshop day built around hands-on practice. Ask for a clear breakdown that includes travel, any materials, and follow-up resources, rather than a single flat number, since hidden costs are the most common source of budget surprises after booking. Local speakers based in the Huntsville and Madison area often reduce travel costs considerably compared to a national bureau flying someone in from out of state.

What Questions Should You Ask Before Booking?

Before committing, ask what the speaker's core message is in a single sentence. If they can't summarize it clearly, your audience likely won't either, no matter how much energy they bring to the room. Ask how they customize content for different industries, what their typical audience size looks like, and what happens if you need to reschedule close to the event date. A speaker who answers these directly, without vague marketing language, is usually the safer bet for a corporate budget.

How Far in Advance Should You Book a Motivational Speaker for a Huntsville Event?

Most experienced motivational speakers in Huntsville, AL get booked out several weeks to a few months ahead, especially around common event seasons like Q1 kickoffs and year-end conferences. Reaching out early gives you more flexibility on date and format, and gives the speaker enough time to properly tailor the session to your team rather than reusing a generic deck on short notice because nothing else was available.

What Makes a Local Speaker Different From a National Speaker Bureau?

A national bureau matches you with whoever's available and fits your budget, often someone who has never set foot in Alabama and has no reason to understand its business culture. A local speaker brings firsthand understanding of the Tennessee Valley business community, from Huntsville's aerospace and technology sector to the region's broader corporate base, and can build that context directly into the session rather than bolting on a few local references at the last minute.

The right fit isn't necessarily the most famous name, it's the speaker whose experience and delivery actually match your team and your goals. Take the time to compare a couple of options directly, ask the questions above, and trust the answers more than the promotional copy.

Frequently Asked Questions

How much does it cost to hire a motivational speaker? Costs vary based on event length, audience size, and travel requirements. Ask for an itemized quote rather than a flat number so you know exactly what's included before you commit to a budget.

What's the difference between a motivational speaker and a keynote speaker? "Keynote speaker" describes the speaking slot itself, while "motivational speaker" describes the content style. A keynote can be motivational, educational, or industry-specific depending on who's delivering it and what the event calls for.

How do I find a motivational speaker for my company? Start with your event's specific goal, then look for speakers with relevant industry experience and verifiable audience feedback, rather than choosing based on name recognition alone.

How long should a motivational speaker talk? Most corporate keynotes run thirty to sixty minutes, though workshop-style sessions can run several hours depending on how hands-on the content is and how much practice time is built in.

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Knowledge and Wisdom

I have written about wisdom before; however, the question is: what do knowledge and wisdom mean to you?

Today, with the introduction of Artificial Intelligence (AI) becoming more prevalent, what does wisdom mean to you?

What is each one of us doing to increase it and learn from the wisdom of others?

Some of it is a knowledge transfer to our youth for those who want to listen.

Some of it is being poured into by others attending conferences and learning new things we did not know.

For all practical purposes, let’s use the word metacognition.  Merriam-Webster defines it as “The awareness or analysis of one’s own learning or thinking processes.”

METACOGNITION Definition & Meaning – Merriam-Webster

As a lifelong learner, I’m still working every day to acquire new information I was either numb to or didn’t know existed.

We are all an open book.  “When we live our life as if it is an open book, we are free in body, mind, and spirit and allow anyone to read from our pages.” — Unknown

I remember hearing a homily about being a “Living Letter.”

It’s something that I strive to be as I share my knowledge and wisdom with others.

2 Corinthians 4: Living Letters | Ken Boa Reflections

Part of what I have learned over the last three years is a deeper understanding of both my faith and the wisdom packed within the Bible.

I don’t profess to be a Bible scholar by any means; however, what I know today is light-years ahead of what I knew three years ago.

Sometimes we must be intentional in learning more, and that is what I have done over the last three years.

If you have ever read “The Four Agreements by Miguel Ruiz and Janet Mills,” it’s this wisdom that I continue to learn and dream from as I search for new knowledge and wisdom.

Many of us discriminate against what we want to learn and dream about, or against what we perceive as worth knowing.

Although my parents are no longer on this earth, the life lessons they imparted to me are and remain a powerful insight into who I am today.

It’s that wisdom and knowledge that make me who I am.

Each of us has the freedom to learn once we leave the house as we strike out in our adult lives.

To me, there is so much we can learn from the wisdom that is yet unknown or untapped.

Years ago, I converted to Catholicism and found myself with the wisdom to understand the word “judgment”.

It’s within the specific word that I found out about the poison we put on others and ourselves.

It’s poison when we judge others and feel the need to judge them.

Today, the wisdom and knowledge of understanding that being a living letter is not about judging others and reading have helped take my wisdom to another level.

My question to you is: how has your search for knowledge and wisdom turned out, and what does it mean to you?

I’m well aware that each of us has blind spots we can’t see, yet what do others see in you when they ask for your opinion on something?

I’ll close with a specific reminder that stays with me when I’m attending any social or conference event and talking with people for the first time.

It’s having the wisdom to speak on any topic, or at least to know something about it, as a sign of being well-read.

Although I don’t profess to be a know-it-all, growing up, some adults would tell me, “I’ve forgotten more than you know,” which was a driving factor in learning more than the person I was speaking to.

When I hear those words, it’s a reminder that there is more to learn.

Marcus Aurelius consistently stressed virtues like self-control, patience, fortitude, and wisdom.

“Knowledge alone is not power; it becomes power only when applied effectively through action, judgment, and influence.”

Knowledge Is Not Power | Conversational Leadership

Today, I challenge you to consider what knowledge and wisdom mean to you. Are you passing it on to the next generation, or are you just living and allowing your wisdom to shrink or atrophy?

Blog source: https://mckinleysthoughts.com/knowledge-and-wisdom/

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Building Character

Today, please take a moment and think about all the people you know who are risk-takers.

We see them all the time in our daily lives; just like the person I saw this past week running a red light when the light was solid red while the green light was moving traffic in another direction.

Every day, we see wrecker service trucks picking up wrecked cars on our streets and highways.

In some of these wrecks, given the direction the vehicle was traveling, I must wonder how the car managed to cross the street or move through traffic.

Just this week, I witnessed a motorcycle rider weaving through traffic, putting himself at risk by crossing in front of an 18-wheeler.

I continue to see people texting while driving, which is distracting.

At times, I see muscle cars showing off, saying, “Look at me.”

Ironically, I was in Walgreens when I heard a young man on the phone talking about getting a ticket after just finishing a driver’s course.  When I walked out, he was pulling off in his Mustang, which somewhat explains his dilemma.

Sometimes the cars we drive can be magnets for tickets; however, it doesn’t always have to be.

Granted, every day we take chances and must always be cognizant of our surroundings when we leave our homes.

It doesn’t always have to be with traffic, as I’m leery of the foods I eat and what they do to my digestive system.

I’ve learned that the older we get, the more we must eat the right foods.

Over the years, I’m reminded of my resiliency training and the importance of leaving early so I don’t have to rush to my appointments.

Therefore, today, what is it that makes us take risks?

Do you see yourself as a risk-taker or someone who prefers to err on the side of caution and avoid taking risks?

Years ago, I learned the word “Timorous” while facing my fear of jumping out of airplanes in the military.  I was injured during a high-altitude entanglement and returned to jump status a few years later.

TIMOROUS Definition & Meaning – Merriam-Webster

However, I’m not advocating that you do what I’ve done, because there is a process of adjusting our mindset to do anything we put our minds to.

Back then, we called it “building character” whenever we jumped out of an airplane or a helicopter.

What I am advocating is that the character we build is important.

For me, it is almost in the same category as hearing the words “No risk, no rewards.”

Plainly stated, “No risk, no rewards” means you must take chances or step outside your comfort zone to achieve meaningful gains, success, or growth.

Many of us have stepped outside our comfort zones in training for 10K runs or marathons.

I’ve only run three marathons in my life, and that was enough.

Even the squirrel we see in our backyards is taking a risk when it leaves the nest.

I saw one on the road the other day trying to cross the street and then turn back.

We are sometimes like squirrels, turning back to avoid the traffic.

On the other hand, we see those who like, or feel the need to, show off when we have a fast car.

Which is not how to build character.

We don’t need to run red lights if we plan and arrive 10 minutes early for our appointments.

We do not need to risk weaving in and out of traffic, putting other people in danger.

As we look at the people around us, we can surmise, or at least tell from their character, the type of person they are.

Not to judge; however, when I see a person who is “Timorous” and has never served in combat or the military, that person is not who I want watching my back if I’m stranded alone on an island.

Each of us has built a specific amount of character that is on display every day.

We hear it in the language people use and how they stand.

Although you may be timid, careful, or reluctant to go into combat or jump out of a perfectly good airplane, are you one who takes risks at the cost of others?

I’m not naïve; I know that sometimes worldly attributes can cloud our judgment.

Today is about having the proper character on display so that others see the good in you!

One of my favorite quotes is by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”

Measure of a Man, The | The Martin Luther King, Jr. Research and Education Institute

Today, I challenge you to do a pulse check.  What are you being measured on each day as you live your life?  When was the last time you looked at your character?

Blog source: https://mckinleysthoughts.com/building-character/

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Introspection

Have you ever wondered why woodpeckers don’t get headaches?

I heard something interesting this week that caught my attention, and I decided to write about it.

Before I get too deep, I believe you need to know the answer to that question.

Why Don’t Woodpeckers Get Headaches? | Ask A Biologist

Today, I’m blessed to know I rarely have headaches.

Even in those moments of giving up coffee for Lent.

I’m aware that some are not as fortunate as I am, as today we live in a society where so many people are affected by migraine headaches.

We visit our doctors for appointments, and they ask, “What are you allergic to?”

So today is about introspection.

INTROSPECTION Definition & Meaning – Merriam-Webster

When was the last time you took time to reflect, looking inward by examining your thoughts and feelings?

It was a reminder to me when I heard the woodpecker question, as something I had never thought about before I heard it.

There are things we take for granted: that the tree will bloom again after the hard winter’s weather and flowers will spring forward at just the right time.

We are all uniquely and wonderfully made, with various qualities and tolerances.

As a lifelong learner, I am fascinated by the prospect of learning something new.

This past Wednesday, at one of my Toastmasters meetings (Professional Speakers), Sara Ivie, DTM, told a story about the people of Gander who sheltered over 6,500 people during 9/11. It was a story I had never heard before, and it led me to greater introspection.

We all know what happened on September 11, 2001, when al-Qaeda terrorists hijacked four planes, crashing two into the World Trade Center, one into the Pentagon, and one in Pennsylvania, killing nearly 3,000 people and triggering the U.S. “War on Terror.”

But what I didn’t know, or had forgotten, was how long the airspace was shut down and the exact locations where planes were redirected or diverted to land.

How Gander, Newfoundland Took In 6,500 People On 9/11

“There were roughly 4,500 planes in the air at the time, and 38 of them landed in the rural Canadian town of Gander, according to the 9/11 Memorial and Museum.”

It’s a story of hospitality that is so much needed in our current history today.

The Canadian town of Gander is still remembering its efforts as it recently celebrated the 25^th Anniversary of 9/11.

Town of Gander to Mark 25th anniversary of 9/11  – NTV: Newfoundland and Labrador’s Most Trusted News Source

Nowadays, everyone has something to say; however, it’s up to us to listen and reflect on what they say.

Many iconic figures have addressed this theme directly or indirectly. Here are some notable ones:

“The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about.” — Oscar Wilde (reflecting on the inevitability of opinions)

“People always have something to say, but rarely do they say it with kindness.” — Maya Angelou (emphasizing compassion in discourse)

“Everyone has an opinion, and they’re usually wrong.” — Mark Twain (a humorous take on human judgment)

Today, I challenge you to reflect on what has caught your attention this week and prompted introspection as you search for answers.

Blog source: https://mckinleysthoughts.com/introspection/

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Subliminal Messages

This week, something caught my attention while watching television.

It was more negative advice from a political point of view.

We all have various words we have learned over time that we know exactly who’s saying them when we hear them.

One is “Drain the Swamp” commercials.

I often wonder what people are thinking or feeling when they hear that word and what their reactions might be if they understand politics.

To me, it’s just like someone saying the “N” Word.

When I hear it from someone not from my race, then I know the context behind their words.

I don’t like it, especially if I know the context behind it.

When we hear the word “Woke,” we have to decide and know who’s saying it and what they are conveying to us.

As much as I try to stay neutral or non-partisan, something seems to trigger an uncomfortable feeling that Rodney King would say.  “Can’t we all just get along?”

As I walked into Walmart this weekend, it was my second time seeing a shopper with a gun strapped to his hip.

I had to ask myself what message he was sending to other shoppers who walked past him as he and his wife shopped.

Then, on the other hand, I had to stop and ask myself another question: why?

Why did he decide today to strap on his pistol to go shopping, Walmart of all places?

Was it a comfort factor?

Did he need to feel bigger, or was he making a point?

Every day we get messages with people even saying one word.

Because I am somewhat naïve about the gun-carrying law in Alabama and Georgia, I checked the rules to support this blog.

I know that “Alabama residents can legally carry firearms in Georgia under Georgia’s constitutional carry law or with a recognized out-of-state permit.”

What this means is “an Alabama resident does not need a Georgia Weapons Carry License (WCL) to carry a handgun in Georgia, either openly or concealed, provided they meet Georgia’s age and eligibility requirements (21+ for civilians, 18+ for active military).”

I bring that to your attention because Georgia was where I first witnessed the Georgia Weapons Carry License (WCL).

Alabama Concealed Carry Gun Laws: CCW & Reciprocity Map | USCCA

Alabama Gun Laws and Regulations

What I didn’t know until today was that “Alabama is considered an ‘open carry’ state, which means that most adults may openly carry a firearm without a permit. ” As of January 1, 2023, Alabama no longer requires permits for concealed carry, making the state a permitless or constitutional carry state. (Individuals may still get permits if they want to take advantage of reciprocity offered in other states.)

Although there is a long list of places in Alabama where carrying a gun is illegal, without express permission from the authority in charge.

Therefore, what subliminal messages are you receiving or seeing today that have required you to pause just for a moment?

I’ll give you a moment to think about it.

Even in this ridiculous world we live in, I know that sometimes our faith is all that is required to get past the subliminal message we take in.

“Sometimes we need the salt of tears to remind us how to savor the sweetness of life.” ~ Lysa TerKeurst

“The things surrounding you in your home serve as subliminal reminders of you who are.”  ~ Denise Linn

Today, I challenge you to take a moment to reflect on the subliminal messages you are receiving or seeing today that have required you to pause.

 

Blog source: https://mckinleysthoughts.com/subliminal-messages/

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